4 things no one tells you about your baby's first year
Welcome to the world of constant change! Welcome to the world of baby. A new mom goes through just as many changes during her baby’s first year as the baby does. From the pains of childbirth to the overwhelming joy of their baby’s first steps, moms around the world go through it all (physically & emotionally).
As my LO’s First Birthday approaches, I can’t help but reflect on the happy blur of this past year. First came the pain of a drug-free labor (shout out to all mommies giving birth! Epidural or not, you’re a warrior) and then came the literal high of having our third baby girl finally in our arms! She made us wait exactly 16 days past her due date before entering earthside. She was worth the wait and then some…which brings me to my first of 4 things no one tells you about in your baby’s first year:
No-one tells you about the high. We’ve all heard about the excruciating pain of childbirth. It’s all over the movies with the mom that’s heaving and trying to catch her breath as she’s giving that final push. What happens after the baby comes out is where the real magic happens. When your baby is finally in your arms and you forget everything you just went through and suddenly you are on cloud 9. My husband and I were on that cloud for a good 3 weeks after we had our babe, it makes every sleepless hour spent changing and comforting baby that much more pleasant.
2. As our baby began to grow, she also started to change before our eyes. Her hair was growing, her eyes changed from a grayish to a deep blue and finally to green, her toothless grin turned into a huge breathtaking smile, and suddenly she had a (big) little personality. No-one tells you how many times you’ll hear your loved ones (and strangers!) tell you she looks “like a replica of you, her sisters, daddy, etc”. I’ve been in the Target lines one too many times and heard this exact line from the person behind me. Then again, I’ve been in the Target line one too many times, period. The point is, you will hear this repeatedly! It’s fun to hear everyones viewpoint!
3. This next one is for us mommies. Our bodies go through so darn much from carrying our babies in our womb to giving birth, breastfeeding or bottle feeding all hours of the night to having our baby attached at the hip. From that extra pouch to the receding hairlines, the ONE postpartum doctor visit & the stripes we’ve earned, Mommies, we’ve been through it all! No-one tells you that those changes we go through are mostly temporary and even if they’re around when our babies are long grown, they were worth their weight in gold. We should celebrate this gift of Motherhood, get in front of the camera with our kids, feel beautiful whether in yoga pants or evening dress, and drink that well-deserved glass of wine!
4. Lastly (but certainly not least), no-one tells you about the immense amount of love and fierce protection you will feel for your little human. It’s as if it’s ingrained within you. The moment your babe is in your arms, mommy instincts are in full gear. As they grow, stand up on their own, fall & cry, you will be right there diligently encouraging them while letting them find their way up again.